Online Dating- Should I do it?
Date: Tuesday, April 04 @ 09:18:11 PDT
Topic: Jewish Dating
A common question among friends these days is whether or not singles should try to meet their ideal partner through online dating. The first answer usually comes from the cautious individuals who warn against predators and seemingly demented individuals. Next you have the handful of people who know ‘so and so’ who just got married to the person that they met online. When it is my turn, I always point out that there is no commitment by simply looking and discovering how it all works. What has someone got to lose by setting up a simple profile and seeing what happens?
By definition, online dating is the association of two individuals
through the Internet. The idea doesn’t seem all that different from
meeting a stranger in a bar or nightclub. Instead of getting dressed
up, going out and using your discerning eye to select potential
candidates from a crowd of singles gathered for various reasons, you
can sit at your computer and put in a basic order for the ideal person.
The initial ‘weeding’ is done for you.
First you need to choose from the numerous sites that offer this type
of service. Make sure to visit several sites, browse as much as you can
without signing up and make an educated decision about which one(s)
might suit what you are looking for. Several sites offer many different
options as far as what you can advertise you are looking for in a
relationship from friendships to something very serious. For some, this
range offers a great deal of prospects to choose from. Others would
prefer a site that is much more focused on exactly the type of
relationship they are looking for.
It’s the next step that is probably going to be the most difficult one.
Actually communicating with someone who interests you or who has
already let you know that what you have put in your profile interests
them. Most sites have a ‘hint’ you can send to let a subscriber know
that they have your interest, whether it be a smile, wink or some other
cute flirting device. You will probably receive the same back or even a
personal message. That’s where you make the decision about whether or
not someone interests you enough to proceed. If no one interests you,
don’t despair. People create profiles every day and some sites even
offer suggestions based on questions asked when you set up your
account.
If someone interests you immediately, you will have to make initial
contact or respond to his or her inquiry to you. It’s even possible to
feel the excitement and flutter in your stomach when you begin contact
that you feel when meeting a potential date for the first time!
It’s important to remember to be cautious at first, be yourself, and be
aware of potential problems with any person that might contact you and
follow your own instincts. But most importantly, be yourself and have
fun! It might be different for you, but you are now in charge of your
dating life through your computer!
About the Author
Kelly Wolf writes for Singles Dating 247.com - If you are single and looking for love then this is the site for you. Articles, Reviews and Links to the best sites on the Internet and the DrDating Forum – a forum for people looking for help in love, relationships and dating.
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